Abundant signs of a disintegrated, fractured Bahrain
When one-time valued friends choose to become enemies and permeate mistrust in those they once held in high regard and trust, a reboot button might be the only way forward, because continuing like this, will turn the whole situation uglier than our darkest nightmares.
Twitter’s a place where you go to get your blood pressure up these days. It has become a longer a place where intelligent conversation seldom takes place, especially when engaged with the majority of people who flooded in after #feb14. I normally don’t partake in those conversations because I know why they’re there and what they want to achieve. I never thought; however, that I would be faced with a situation where one of those would be a person I sincerely thought be a good and valued friend. This now erstwhile friend seem to have inexplicably taken umbrage with my ideology and positions and wasted not another opportunity to pounce by levying baseless assumptions and accusations against me. I know that he’s not the first and won’t be the last. The tragedy of the situation is that I held him in very high regard and I liaised with him in cordial business for over three years and I had nothing but praise for him in front of everyone. Professional, educated, erudite and a general good guy is the impression that I’ve built of him over the years…. After an exchange over a period of few minutes last night though, it was quite evident to me that once again, I have been a bad judge of character.
It started simply enough with challenging a statement made in a tweet from @saqeralkhalifa in which he stated that:
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I’ve been meeting numerous journalists who wrote untrue stories on #Bahrain. They were disappointed on opposition when I presented evidence
As the gentleman is an official in the our embassy in the US, I thought he should know better than to make such a statement without offering a semblance of proof or evidence to support his assertions. He’s at that position in the first place to probably monitor the media and “correct” some errant thoughts about our dear country – amongst other valued cultural activities of course. He should know; therefore, that making unfounded statements can and do hurt the country rather than help it.
So I asked:
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@SaqerAlKhalifa care to share the names of those journalists?
What? So I’m an enemy who sneaks up on the country? ME? I’m not sure what Mohammed was smoking to have reached that conclusion, so maybe offering a reset might be advisable. Once again.
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@BuYasmeen moe we shared teas and meetings for over 3 years. I never saw the hate in you like this. What happened? What did u c in me 4 this
Four years or reading my thoughts which he implies that he copiously agreed with, and now, all of a sudden, overnight, I’m a “bad guy”, a traitor who’s colors are “finally” exposed!
The mind boggles.
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@mahmood u have regrettably shown that ur not man enough to answer a simple question. Good night friend.
What a staggering turn of events. This country is so damaged right now that if people like this gentleman has such hatred impregnated in him that those feelings have started to gush out and paint their views and horizons. I’m therefore no longer surprised by the stories of discrimination, hostility and mistrust that pervades the whole atmosphere here. It will not get any better, when all of this is aided and spread throughout by the high and low.
Is it a coincidence then that for the first time in my life I was pointedly asked in a recent business meeting as to where I was from for the sole purpose of pinning my confessionalism, and hence by infantile inference, my political allegiance?
The majority of people here – and even now the foreigners in this pitiful land – are using a very broad brush to paint their own fears and apprehensions on whomever they perceive to be against them, and they take it upon their sloping shoulders that it is their national duty to defend this country from the ills harbored against it by the likes of me!
Is holding a political opinion now tantamount to treason? Must those who dare to demand universal human rights be expunged and eliminated? Is the demand for these rights – any of them – are for the exclusive benefit of one part of society and not the other? Of course not. When human rights are inculcated it will benefit everyone, universally, without any distinction, even those who have taken it upon themselves to arbitrarily put themselves in a position of defenders when their defense is nothing but misaligned and misdirected. What they’re really doing though is delaying the certain moment when everyone will benefit from those very demands now put forward by not one, but the multiple political societies and the majority of activists the combined representatives of whom easily constitute a comfortable majority in this country.
I say it again: is the demand to live with dignity so foreign to @BuYasmeen? I should think not. At least, I hope not. I still wish him the best in his endeavors, but he and those who have driven such a schism in this society should know that even when they bear more than half of the indigenous population ill, they shall benefit from the wrongly spilt blood of those who fell at Pearl and elsewhere in this great country.
Sectarianism will not get us there. Religious and ideological extremism will not. Fear of the other won’t and the baseless, blind and sycophantic accusations and actions won’t either. So step back and re-evaluate your positions if you really want this country to go forward and give a chance to harmony to at least make an attempt at repairing this fractured society.
Dear Mahmood,
Even though I strongly object your views and perceptions on what constitutes good governance, I am sincerely upset that you and other citizens of this great nation are going through unstable moments with close friends. I shouldn’t have tweeted the journalists tweet in the first place. I’m not a businessman, but I do have a vision that all Bahrainis somehow try to find a way to use their skills to the collective benefit of Bahrain and Bahrainis as a whole. We all have it in us, time to put our hands together and aknowledge where we swayed from the true path so we can get back to it. Good luck.
Thank you Saqer. It doesn’t matter whether we agree with each other, what matters is that we respect each other’s views and try – through dialogue – to attempt to get the other to see our point of view. If that cannot be done or an agreement cannot be reached, then break off and come back and revisit at another time. It is also important in these situations that the good of the country to be paramount in our minds. My hand, as I know that of many many good people in this country continue to reach out and extend their hands in friendship. Like you, I just hope that they do connect.
Mahmood – twitter should not replace face to face communication. After 3 years of tea and friendship, I think you and this gentleman owe it to each other to at least share one more cup of tea and discuss the issues in person.
Hopefully the outcome of that will be that you both at least understand where the other one is coming from in terms of thought process and, even though you may agree to disagree, you can still remain friends.
If not, then at least you have tried.
I think, while facebook, twitter et al certainly have their uses and are great in their immediacy and reach, they do not replace face to face dialogue.
If you put all the people who these days fight ( and You are not one of them – I am talking about those on both sides who are deeply entrenched in bitterness and sometimes hared, into a room 1;1and got each to tell their story, calmly, human to human, perhaps there would be a little less ‘war’ and a little more unity in Bahrain…
Bahrain needs this – and yes, in part it’s utopian that it’ll happen on a larger scale ( for now…), but at least if individuals keep reaching out and aiming for understanding and dialogue, it’s a start.
I hope you are able to reach out – and hope the three years count for something – they should at least count for the chance to have a couple of hours over a good cup of tea or two…
Dear Mahmood, Unfortunately your experience echoes that of several people that I know, including myself. When people use words like “when you attack my country , you attack me” they are personalizing this crisis and linking it to their ego. This seems to stem from the official policy from top-down (excluding a certain moderate-minded reasonable prince).
I agree with MishMish that Twitter does not replace a good old-fashioned cup of tea. There is something about social media communication that appears to by-pass the emotional intelligence ability, particularly compassion and humanity. It is painful to discover that friendship and respect is skin deep, but it is also self-defeating if we allow these experiences to define how we conduct ourselves. “Be the change you wish to see in the world” You may lose some friends, yes, but you will gain some too.
I’m away on a business trip, missing Bahrain. Reading all the positive comments, has given me the feeling that in the mess we are in, there is still a glimmer of hope, and still lots of folks out there who look out and think of the best for Bahrain way beyond their big fat ego and personal gain. May Allah bless Bahrain in this holy month and bring us all together just like the good ‘ole days.
Sadly, Bahrain is turning into some sort of soap opera. So many people are polarised and cannot fathom that someone has a view that is different from theirs. As Bu Aref said, we have to learn to respect each others’ opinions, only then can we move forward.
I find that I agree with some of what Saqer says, but not all. And I agree with some of what Mahmood says, but not all. But what really matters is that we all love this wonderful country and work hard to help it heal.
God bless.
And Bu Aref, call the guy and ask him out for tea. God willing you’ll patch things up
From my personal experience, I’ve been likened to “Yazeed” and that “I dance on the graves of the martyrs” and will be thrown into “History’s garbage” for my views and support of F1.
These attacks were, like you, from friends over Twitter, but in my case they were unfortunately behind nicknames and monickers. I only realized who they were after discovering that sent me friendly DM messages way back. What’s even more saddening was that these people are considered to be the cream of the crop in Bahrain’s youth and it’s just heartbreaking how daft we’ve become.
In an attempt to keep my sanity, I’ve shyed away from speaking Feb14 with friends and co-workers as not to create unneccessary tensions and so far it has done me well. I feel more comfortable arguing/discussing/cussing with random people online lol.
Speaking of going out for tea, we should get together some time post-Eid inshalla
Sad conversation to read..
You’ve already given him too much attention by putting him on your blog.
I hope you encounter more of the moderate Bahrainis who can listen to both sides with respect – they do exist you know
This is sadly the situation that’s prevailing in Bahrain. Many people I know lost close friends, myself included for holding a particular point of view, as well as threats and dirty name calling. To try and reconcile views and discuss these views is the only way forward, but people have become so polarized that even suggesting it gets people in trouble.
Problem is actually worse because 6 months ago, most of these people barely could distinguish what system this country is run on or what’s going on politically. Overnight, we got a bunch of heroic defenders and warriors..
Hopefully your friend comes to his senses and you discuss this like adults sometime soon, since friends disagreeing on something shouldn’t be reason to lose close ones over. Tea is always a good catalyst for reconciliation
Mahmood I have been reading your blog for many many years, and I honestly can’t say that your support for the government or opposition is black and white. Why do arabs consider themselves sheep? Blind loyalty to a person or group no matter what actions they take. I for one didn’t expect much from the opposition or al wefaq as I always rated them a notch above junk; on the other hand I never expected an institution such as our government to stoop to this level acting as a gang without laws or rules and absolutely no accountability. The opposition is naive and the government is reckless.
While reading the conversation, I’ve been asking myself, are we on the same boat? or is every one hanging on to any floating piece of wood for himself?
Seems your friend needs an emotional intelligence course.
Dear Mahmood,
Even though I strongly object your views and perceptions on what constitutes good governance, I am sincerely upset that you and other citizens of this great nation are going through unstable moments with close friends. I shouldn’t have tweeted the journalists tweet in the first place. I’m not a businessman, but I do have a vision that all Bahrainis somehow try to find a way to use their skills to the collective benefit of Bahrain and Bahrainis as a whole. We all have it in us, time to put our hands together and aknowledge where we swayed from the true path so we can get back to it. Good luck.
Thank you Saqer. It doesn’t matter whether we agree with each other, what matters is that we respect each other’s views and try – through dialogue – to attempt to get the other to see our point of view. If that cannot be done or an agreement cannot be reached, then break off and come back and revisit at another time. It is also important in these situations that the good of the country to be paramount in our minds. My hand, as I know that of many many good people in this country continue to reach out and extend their hands in friendship. Like you, I just hope that they do connect.
Mahmood – twitter should not replace face to face communication. After 3 years of tea and friendship, I think you and this gentleman owe it to each other to at least share one more cup of tea and discuss the issues in person.
Hopefully the outcome of that will be that you both at least understand where the other one is coming from in terms of thought process and, even though you may agree to disagree, you can still remain friends.
If not, then at least you have tried.
I think, while facebook, twitter et al certainly have their uses and are great in their immediacy and reach, they do not replace face to face dialogue.
If you put all the people who these days fight ( and You are not one of them – I am talking about those on both sides who are deeply entrenched in bitterness and sometimes hared, into a room 1;1and got each to tell their story, calmly, human to human, perhaps there would be a little less ‘war’ and a little more unity in Bahrain…
Bahrain needs this – and yes, in part it’s utopian that it’ll happen on a larger scale ( for now…), but at least if individuals keep reaching out and aiming for understanding and dialogue, it’s a start.
I hope you are able to reach out – and hope the three years count for something – they should at least count for the chance to have a couple of hours over a good cup of tea or two…
Dear Mahmood, Unfortunately your experience echoes that of several people that I know, including myself. When people use words like “when you attack my country , you attack me” they are personalizing this crisis and linking it to their ego. This seems to stem from the official policy from top-down (excluding a certain moderate-minded reasonable prince).
I agree with MishMish that Twitter does not replace a good old-fashioned cup of tea. There is something about social media communication that appears to by-pass the emotional intelligence ability, particularly compassion and humanity. It is painful to discover that friendship and respect is skin deep, but it is also self-defeating if we allow these experiences to define how we conduct ourselves. “Be the change you wish to see in the world” You may lose some friends, yes, but you will gain some too.
I’m away on a business trip, missing Bahrain. Reading all the positive comments, has given me the feeling that in the mess we are in, there is still a glimmer of hope, and still lots of folks out there who look out and think of the best for Bahrain way beyond their big fat ego and personal gain. May Allah bless Bahrain in this holy month and bring us all together just like the good ‘ole days.
Sadly, Bahrain is turning into some sort of soap opera. So many people are polarised and cannot fathom that someone has a view that is different from theirs. As Bu Aref said, we have to learn to respect each others’ opinions, only then can we move forward.
I find that I agree with some of what Saqer says, but not all. And I agree with some of what Mahmood says, but not all. But what really matters is that we all love this wonderful country and work hard to help it heal.
God bless.
And Bu Aref, call the guy and ask him out for tea. God willing you’ll patch things up
Mahmood my friend, عندنا وعندك خير
From my personal experience, I’ve been likened to “Yazeed” and that “I dance on the graves of the martyrs” and will be thrown into “History’s garbage” for my views and support of F1.
These attacks were, like you, from friends over Twitter, but in my case they were unfortunately behind nicknames and monickers. I only realized who they were after discovering that sent me friendly DM messages way back. What’s even more saddening was that these people are considered to be the cream of the crop in Bahrain’s youth and it’s just heartbreaking how daft we’ve become.
In an attempt to keep my sanity, I’ve shyed away from speaking Feb14 with friends and co-workers as not to create unneccessary tensions and so far it has done me well. I feel more comfortable arguing/discussing/cussing with random people online lol.
Speaking of going out for tea, we should get together some time post-Eid inshalla
Sad conversation to read..
You’ve already given him too much attention by putting him on your blog.
I hope you encounter more of the moderate Bahrainis who can listen to both sides with respect – they do exist you know
This is sadly the situation that’s prevailing in Bahrain. Many people I know lost close friends, myself included for holding a particular point of view, as well as threats and dirty name calling. To try and reconcile views and discuss these views is the only way forward, but people have become so polarized that even suggesting it gets people in trouble.
Problem is actually worse because 6 months ago, most of these people barely could distinguish what system this country is run on or what’s going on politically. Overnight, we got a bunch of heroic defenders and warriors..
Hopefully your friend comes to his senses and you discuss this like adults sometime soon, since friends disagreeing on something shouldn’t be reason to lose close ones over. Tea is always a good catalyst for reconciliation
I think the problem is that Bahrain is caught in the middle of a much larger conflict, or conflicts.
Mahmood I have been reading your blog for many many years, and I honestly can’t say that your support for the government or opposition is black and white. Why do arabs consider themselves sheep? Blind loyalty to a person or group no matter what actions they take. I for one didn’t expect much from the opposition or al wefaq as I always rated them a notch above junk; on the other hand I never expected an institution such as our government to stoop to this level acting as a gang without laws or rules and absolutely no accountability. The opposition is naive and the government is reckless.
Well gentlemen,
While reading the conversation, I’ve been asking myself, are we on the same boat? or is every one hanging on to any floating piece of wood for himself?